why choose death
i've always been intrigued by the choice that some individuals make regarding their death. in short, i'm intrigued by suicide, all the more when someone i know has taken his own life.
just a week or two ago, a colleague of mine chose to end his life. he hung himself to death. the shock of this action was all the more greater only because he was reported to have been in office till about an hour or so before he took his life. the time that he spent in office prior to his suicide did not give the people he had interacted with any inkling regarding his impending action. his resulting action has left all of us groping in the dark for a reason to attribute to his action, but we are still left groping. this void, of not knowing the reason, makes it even more difficult to accept reality that one life has been snuffed out.
would having known the reason, preempted a reaction from us so that this gruesome end could have been avoided? maybe. even that is not 100% sure. because, in the end what matters is the decision of the individual. you can take a horse to the water, but you can't make it drink. similarly, you can advice all you want, but its upto me to decide whether i will abide by the advice or strike out on my own.
i believe that the decision to take ones own life requires a great deal of mental courage. you are very well aware of what you intend to do to yourself and that you steel yourself to do it speaks volumes about your determination. but, if only that determination and strength of mind was utilized to overcome the pressures you faced, to surmount the odds that were pushing you under, would it not have resulted in an experience that made life even more worth living, because you would have discovered a new facet of yourself, a facet that you doubted that you had.
yes, death is the only solution to life. what is born must die. but taking your own life, how does it solve anything. it only makes even more questions crop up. the first being, why did you do it? and when satisfactory answers are not readily available, then starts the blame game, and some of this can get really vicious leading to others getting depressed, being blamed for something they were not responsible for. true, in this fog of the unknown reason, anyone who had a reason to cause you to take this dastardly step always has the chance to go scot free.
just a week or two ago, a colleague of mine chose to end his life. he hung himself to death. the shock of this action was all the more greater only because he was reported to have been in office till about an hour or so before he took his life. the time that he spent in office prior to his suicide did not give the people he had interacted with any inkling regarding his impending action. his resulting action has left all of us groping in the dark for a reason to attribute to his action, but we are still left groping. this void, of not knowing the reason, makes it even more difficult to accept reality that one life has been snuffed out.
would having known the reason, preempted a reaction from us so that this gruesome end could have been avoided? maybe. even that is not 100% sure. because, in the end what matters is the decision of the individual. you can take a horse to the water, but you can't make it drink. similarly, you can advice all you want, but its upto me to decide whether i will abide by the advice or strike out on my own.
i believe that the decision to take ones own life requires a great deal of mental courage. you are very well aware of what you intend to do to yourself and that you steel yourself to do it speaks volumes about your determination. but, if only that determination and strength of mind was utilized to overcome the pressures you faced, to surmount the odds that were pushing you under, would it not have resulted in an experience that made life even more worth living, because you would have discovered a new facet of yourself, a facet that you doubted that you had.
yes, death is the only solution to life. what is born must die. but taking your own life, how does it solve anything. it only makes even more questions crop up. the first being, why did you do it? and when satisfactory answers are not readily available, then starts the blame game, and some of this can get really vicious leading to others getting depressed, being blamed for something they were not responsible for. true, in this fog of the unknown reason, anyone who had a reason to cause you to take this dastardly step always has the chance to go scot free.
so many days down the line, sketchy details regarding the reason for my colleague's suicide is being made known. it is now known that he did leave behind a suicide note, one that has names, names of his friends that supported him and names of foes that threatened him. investigations alone will lead this to a proper conclusion, why he did resort to this step?
anyway, way down the line, this emotional upheaveal will be replaced by a sense of what to do? its but fate, and this loss becomes a memory and a statistic and yet, we would not have managed to overcome our feeling of guilt for having let it happen. but, for the majority, i guess the words of Queen's song would hold good, 'don't try suicide, nobody gives a damn'.
so its better alive than dead, let death come naturally. be happy as long as you live and surely you will find a solution to the problems that life throws up.
posted by netant at 7:51 PM
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